My boyfriend is jealous of a friend because I’m going running with him?
(To shed a bit of background on the situation: My boyfriend LOVES to run. He ran in high school and even runs a bit now.
This guy “Adam” asked me if I would like to run with him because he knows I need a running buddy, since my boyfriend’s work schedule deems it nearly impossible for him to run with me, unless he wakes up early in the morning, which he doesn’t..
I asked my boyfriend if it would be okay to run with Adam, and he was very hesitant, but he said he guess it would be okay. He hates the fact that he can’t be my running buddy, bt he hates it even more that another guy wants to run with me, which is understandable because I know how I’d feel if it were another girl and I was in his place.
I’ve told him numerous times that I wouldn’t run with Adam, if it makes him uncomfortable, but he insists, saying he trusts me and that I shouldn’t have to change who I hang out with/what friends I have because of him.
But he’s still acting really weird.
He’s hardly talking to me, and when he does he brings up the subject of me running with Adam and makes lighthearted jokes about him and running together etc.
I’m just not very sure what to do.
I love my boyfriend and would never cheat on him, and I’ve told him this, and he knows this, but he’s still being weird.)
Answer :
Don’t look at it in terms of him being jealous of this other guy, but more in terms of the fact that he is feeling like less of a man because you need someone else. Its obvious that regardless of what he is saying it still makes him feel bad that you are running with this other guy, if you want to make him feel better and score some points, find a way to drop running with the other guy and tell him it just isn’t as much fun running with him as it is with your boyfriend. Find a girl to run with instead and you won’t have this problem.
Sometimes you have to read between the lines and see why he is upset, it speaks volumes though that he is still willing to let you run with this guy when its obviously bothering him. Its on you now to respect his feelings and respect that he didn’t just say no by dropping this other guy but don’t make it seem like your doing do because your boyfriend is acting up.